You Know What I’m Sayin’?: The “N” Word: a Sign of Success or Failure?
Some time back I was part of a group of Black men training to be mentors to youth in our area. We openly discussed, among other things, our fears especially for our young Black males as well as our concerns in regard to their style of dress (saggin’), and their flagrant use of the “N” word. Most of us are part of the Baby Boomer Generation and we recognized that our dilemma was trying to be a role model to a population whose ways and practices we did not understand. This situation caused many of us (educators, professionals, judges, etc) to wonder out loud how effective we can hope to be.
Fast forward several weeks. In a conversation with long-time friends and family members we reminisced about the intent of the early 1970′s when our generation hoped to change the “system” and create a nation where, among other things, education was valued and accessible by all and that we lived in a society where things like ethnicity were honored and valued. We talked about how today’s youth refer to the “N” word as casually as we say “Hello”. Where did we go wrong? was the initial sentiment. As the conversation ensued my life-brother, Gary, stated maybe our generation was successful at least in this circumstance. He pointed out that this generation has taken the offensiveness out of the word and reduced it to a greeting often directed to youth groups in general and not just Black Americans. Many of us found this perspective both provocative and intriguing. Is it possible that the real issue is our own reluctance to diffuse the past?
There is little doubt that today’s generation has less of a connection with the historical context of the “N” word, but is that something that should be of concern to those of us who are older? Should we be recognizing their willingness to let go or would that be a tragedy? It’s said that a nation that neglects its past is condemned to repeat it. This is echoed by the Jewish faith in their rigorous efforts that the Holocaust never be forgotten lest it be repeated. Are today’s Black youth in denial or are they just moving away from the shackles of the past and the victim mentality that they are owed something because their ancestors were slaves?
Your thoughts and comments are welcomed and appreciated.
